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Subtle Signs That Make You Stop Trusting Coworkers
People reveal subtle behaviors that make them stop trusting coworkers.
In brief
People reveal subtle behaviors that make them stop trusting coworkers. Coworkers who gossip, manipulate, blame others, or act untrustworthy trigger immediate distrust. Originally reported by BuzzFeed.
Overly Gossipy Colleagues
People who point out others' lateness or sick days make you stop trusting them immediately.
“People who are overly gossipy and overly interested in what everyone else is doing (or not doing) at work. When I start noticing them pointing out that this person was 5 minutes late, or that person sure has been taking a lot of sick time, I immediately start watching what I say to them.”
Manager Manipulation
Managers who share information with executives to make you seem untrustworthy then control the narrative between you and them.
“I had a manager who was obsessed with managing up. If I ever see this behavior again, I’ll be very wary. They once told an exec something to make it look like I was untrustworthy, unbeknownst to me. Then, they told me the exec had concerns about me. Then, they became the go-between for information between me and said exec, controlling the narrative both ways.”
Job Theft Accusations
Colleagues who accuse others of stealing jobs and blame them for failures without seeking feedback.
“Lady A accused Lady B of stealing her job and constantly made sly remarks about what B should do. I left the job about 18 months later. I have to say that Lady A acted in an incredibly bitter way. Instead of seeking feedback on how she could improve, she became defensive and blamed Lady B for preventing her from getting the job.”
Tech-Savvy Coworkers
Coworkers who show you software tips then loudly tell bosses you don't know how to do tasks.
“When I witnessed a coworker show another teammate some tips and tricks for a software program, and then they later loudly told the boss, 'She didn’t know how to do it until I showed her.'”
Racist Statements
Coworkers who make racist comments and sit next to you, making it hard to ignore their behavior.
“I stopped talking to a close coworker (a Gen Z female) after she constantly made racist statements on multiple occasions. It pissed me off. I tried to correct her, but eventually stopped talking to her.”
Overly Nice Behavior
People who accept tasks in meetings but then ask for private help without accountability.
“Being overly nice in a group setting, and then their personality changes in private chats. So they'll accept a task in a meeting, then privately ask you to take care of their responsibilities in a DM.”
Information Hoarders
Colleagues who share minimal information when you ask for help or need onboarding.
“Information hoarding. I've had this happen twice. There are people who will only tell you the absolute minimum of what they think you should know when you ask a question or need help onboarding with something.”
Micromanagers
Coworkers who try to control tasks without authority, telling you how to do things.
“Micromanaging. If you aren’t in any position of workplace authority, shut the fuck up.”
The key point
Coworkers who gossip, manipulate, blame others, or act untrustworthy trigger immediate distrust.
