From Chicago Sun-Times · · 1m 20s
Unfaithful Husband Invites Woman to Move In
Husband invites cheating partner to move in after 20-year affair.
In brief
Husband invites cheating partner to move in after 20-year affair. Wife seeks legal advice after husband brings cheating partner to live with her. Originally reported by Chicago Sun-Times.
Husband's past affair
Husband cheated on wife more than 20 years ago and kept in touch with the woman since then.
“My husband, "Dirk," cheated on me more than 20 years ago. He has kept in touch with the woman since then.”
Recent invitation to move in
Sixteen months ago, the woman told him she was "in a bad place" and he offered to let her move in with them.
“Sixteen months ago, she told him she was "in a bad place." He offered to let this (married) woman move in with us”
Household issues
Her room is filthy, she broke several things without paying, and the wife paid for her teeth.
“Her room is filthy, and she has broken several things in my house without paying for anything. Before she moved here, Dirk wanted to get her teeth fixed. I ended up paying for it with my credit card.”
Debt and payment
She promised to pay $5,000 but has only given $510 so far.
“She promised she was going to pay me back, but she has given me exactly $510 of the $5,000 that she owes me.”
Wife's concerns
Wife is worried about the woman's appearance and behavior but feels she should take more action.
“I’m not worried about Dirk cheating with her again, as she has not maintained her looks or figure over the years. Still, how much more of this should I take?”
Husband's response
Husband says he enjoys her company and refuses marriage counseling.
“When I ask him why he keeps her around, he tells me he enjoys her company. He will not go to marriage counseling as he doesn’t think we need it.”
Legal advice
Dear Abby recommends contacting a lawyer immediately but not moving out until approved.
“DEAR LOSING MY MIND: My dear, you should have left long ago. Call a lawyer immediately. However, since this woman is not a physical threat, resist the urge to move out until you have your attorney’s approval.”
Wife's dilemma
Wife asks whether to start divorce proceedings or let this go.
“Do you think I should contact a lawyer and start divorce proceedings or let this go?”
Other reader's story
Another reader shares story about co-worker depression and need for professional help.
“I became close with an attractive, younger co-worker last year. Realizing I was starting to get a crush, I told her I needed to stay away because of my feelings and, being married, couldn’t risk losing my family.”
Professional help advice
Dear Abby advises encouraging professional help for co-worker in depression.
“What you should do is reiterate to her firmly, but as kindly as you can, that she needs to get professional help for her depression.”
In short
Wife seeks legal advice after husband brings cheating partner to live with her.
