From Cosmopolitan · Syeda Khaula Saad · · 1m 10s
How to Tell If You’re Dating a Loser
How to spot a relationship loser and fix it without blame.
In brief
How to spot a relationship loser and fix it without blame. If your partner acts like a loser when life gets hard, talk honestly to improve the relationship or end it if they don’t change. Originally reported by Cosmopolitan.
Quick answers
- What is a Loser in Dating?
- The term 'loser' means someone who acts poorly when life gets hard, not someone struggling personally.
- How to Spot Loser Behavior?
- Ask if they take responsibility for mistakes or blame others when problems arise.
- Loser Behavior vs. Character?
- Loser behavior has more to do with character than circumstances, being kind, thoughtful, and decent matters most.
- What to Do If You’re Dating a Loser?
- Talk honestly about concerns without calling them a loser to avoid blame and encourage change.
- When to End the Relationship?
- If criticism makes them defensive or act worse, end the relationship to avoid becoming the loser yourself.
What is a Loser in Dating?
The term 'loser' means someone who acts poorly when life gets hard, not someone struggling personally.
“Forget whether someone has the right job, income, education, social status, or impressive résumé”
How to Spot Loser Behavior?
Ask if they take responsibility for mistakes or blame others when problems arise.
“When something goes wrong, do they become curious about their part in it, or immediately find someone to blame?”
Loser Behavior vs. Character?
Loser behavior has more to do with character than circumstances, being kind, thoughtful, and decent matters most.
“What kind of a human being are they? Do they have the qualities that can sustain long-term love?”
What to Do If You’re Dating a Loser?
Talk honestly about concerns without calling them a loser to avoid blame and encourage change.
“Please don’t call them a loser to their face, this could make the conversation worse.”
When to End the Relationship?
If criticism makes them defensive or act worse, end the relationship to avoid becoming the loser yourself.
“If hearing any sort of criticism makes your partner defensive, angry, or act more like a loser, you can go ahead and just start packing up the relationship right there.”
Why Stay With a Loser?
Choosing to stay with a loser who acts poorly when life gets hard makes you the problem.
“Because, and I hate to break to you, if you willingly choose to stay with someone you know is a loser, well, you eventually become the loser too.”
What it means
If your partner acts like a loser when life gets hard, talk honestly to improve the relationship or end it if they don’t change.
