From Cosmopolitan · Syeda Khaula Saad · · 1m 20s
Therapists Warn Against TikTok Dating Advice
Experts say TikTok relationship advice often harms connections.
In brief
Experts say TikTok relationship advice often harms connections. Therapists urge ignoring TikTok's transactional and manipulative dating advice to avoid relationship damage. Originally reported by Cosmopolitan.
TikTok Dating Advice
Therapists say most TikTok dating advice is harmful and transactional.
“any and all dating advice”
Test Your Partner
TikTok encourages testing partners through ignoring or creating situations to see reactions.
“test them”
Expect Perfect Partners
TikTok advice tells people to expect perfect partners without effort.
“if he wanted to, he would”
Relationship Friction
TikTok claims any relationship friction means the relationship is bad.
“relationships shouldn’t be hard”
Constant Red Flags
TikTok pushes constant assessment of relationships for red flags.
“be alert at all times”
Financial Gain in Relationships
TikTok promotes relationships as financial transactions rather than emotional connections.
“relationships are for financial gain”
Sex Rejection
TikTok advises men to leave partners if they’re not interested in sex.
“if they’re not interested in sex, go cold”
Therapist Ronald Hoang
Therapist Ronald Hoang says testing partners creates more problems than solutions.
“instead of encouraging honest communication, it encourages people to play games”
Therapist Rebecca Boone
Therapist Rebecca Boone says partners should communicate needs instead of assuming.
“we've started confusing emotional compatibility with emotional mind-reading”
Therapist Ciara Bogdanovic
Therapist Ciara Bogdanovic says constant red flag assessment creates anxiety.
“being overly tuned in to relationship content can create hypervigilance”
Therapist Vanessa Cushing
Therapist Vanessa Cushing says relationships should be about connection, not financial gain.
“relationships should be about the connection”
What to Do Instead
Instead of TikTok advice, communicate openly and understand your partner's needs.
“have a conversation. be open-minded”
The one thing
Therapists urge ignoring TikTok's transactional and manipulative dating advice to avoid relationship damage.
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