From MadeForMums · · 1m 30s
5 signs of oversharing
How to stop oversharing without shutting people out.
In brief
How to stop oversharing without shutting people out. People overshare when they share too much without considering the recipient's comfort, and can pause to choose the right person and moment instead. Originally reported by MadeForMums.
Casual conversation turns into therapy session
A casual conversation turns into a therapy session when you share deeply personal details with someone you just met.
“People usually know something felt off”
Vulnerability hangover after sharing
You get a vulnerability hangover after sharing if you replay what you said, worry about others' reactions, or wish you could take it back.
“Regret after disclosure is one of the clearest signals”
Can't let silence be silence
You can't let silence be silence when you fill every awkward pause with increasingly personal anecdotes to stay in control of the moment.
“When someone is uncomfortable, personal disclosure can feel like a way to stay in control of the moment”
Private life becomes public online
Your private life becomes public online when you share something emotionally charged on social media without considering the cooling-off period.
“Social media rewards immediacy”
Conversations become one-sided
Conversations become one-sided when friends stop opening up, return to your experiences, or retreat after intense exchanges.
“If friends have stopped opening up to you”
How to stop oversharing
Stop oversharing by pausing before sharing deeply personal details, choosing the right person and moment, and focusing on reciprocity rather than responding with more sharing.
“Ask what you hope will happen after you share”
Oversharing signs explained
Oversharing signs include therapy sessions, vulnerability hangovers, filling silences, online sharing, and one-sided conversations.
“People usually know something felt off”
When to share
Share when you want comfort, advice, or closeness, and not when you need to get anxiety out of your system.
“If you want comfort, advice, or closeness, say that”
The key point
People overshare when they share too much without considering the recipient's comfort, and can pause to choose the right person and moment instead.
