The stereotype is wrong

We picture the bitter old person alone at home. A growing share of seniors are simply choosing more time by themselves, and it has nothing to do with being antisocial.

More alone, not more anxious

Time spent alone rises with age, partly from fewer social occasions and partly from preference. Older adults show no more social anxiety and no weaker social skills than younger ones.

What good solitude feels like

Researchers at the University of Haifa interviewed 124 people, including older adults and gerontology professionals. Chosen solitude came out as pleasant, satisfying and meaningful.

“la solitude positive choisie est vécue comme agréable, satisfaisante et porteuse de sens”

Fewer bad feelings alone

A study in The Gerontologist followed over 300 people aged 65 and up. Their solitary moments were linked to fewer negative emotions, especially when their relationships were draining.

A lifetime of caring leaves a mark

Hu, Larkina and Smith found in 2023 that former caregivers viewed their own ageing more negatively. After decades on other people's needs, they felt the pull to come back to themselves.

Chosen is not the same as imposed

Solitude that a person picks can be freedom and reconnection with the self. Solitude that lands on someone is a different thing entirely, and the balance between them stays fragile.

Four questions to ask

Family and friends are the safeguard. Ask the person: do you like being alone, do you still have enough contact, do you feel well or sad, content or cut off?