From Psychologies · Guillaume Servant · · 1m 10s
Confident Kids Often Have Parents Who Stopped This Natural Comfort Reflex
Parents who stopped using a natural comfort reflex help kids build lasting confidence.
In brief
Parents who stopped using a natural comfort reflex help kids build lasting confidence. Parents who stopped using a natural comfort reflex help kids build lasting confidence. Originally reported by Psychologies.
Confident Kids Often Have Parents Who Stopped This Natural Comfort Reflex
When a child says they're bad at something, parents often feel helpless to rebuild their lasting confidence.
“Quand un enfant répète qu’il est nul, nos réflexes de parents bienveillants peuvent fragiliser sa confiance”
Dr Becky Kennedy's Approach to Child Confidence
Dr Becky Kennedy, a clinical psychologist, explains that constantly making children happy can weaken their emotional resilience later in life.
“Si nous essayons de rendre notre enfant heureux pendant son enfance, nous finissons par optimiser sa fragilité et son anxiété à l'âge adulte”
The 'Emotions Bench' Method
Dr Kennedy uses the 'emotions bench' concept to show children they're not alone during tough moments.
“Je pense toujours à un enfant sur un banc, par exemple, disons que je suis sur le banc de 'je ne me sens pas bon dans quelque chose'”
Turning 'I'm Bad' into Specific Situations
When a child says they're bad at something, Dr Kennedy suggests focusing on specific situations instead of general feelings.
“Un grand principe que je veux rappeler quand les enfants disent ce genre de choses, c'est d'essayer de passer du global au spécifique”
Handling Social Exclusion Frustration
For social exclusion, Dr Kennedy advises acknowledging feelings without immediately solving the problem.
“La confiance ne viendra pas du fait que vous lui achetiez immédiatement un billet”
The Balance Between Support and Stability
Dr Kennedy emphasizes a balance between supporting children without overwhelming them to build lasting confidence.
“Je n'ai pas besoin de les arracher de ce banc, je n'ai pas non plus à insinuer que ce banc va s'effondrer”
In short
Parents who stopped using a natural comfort reflex help kids build lasting confidence.
