From Psychologies · Laurena Valette · · 50s
Elodie 41: Family Organizer Stops
Elodie, 41, stopped being the family organizer, leaving others confused.
In brief
Elodie, 41, stopped being the family organizer, leaving others confused. Elodie, 41, stopped managing family tasks, causing confusion as others didn't understand her role. Originally reported by Psychologies.
Elodie's role
Elodie, 41, organized family tasks like birthdays, medical appointments, vacations, gifts, meals, and paperwork.
“J'étais celle qui organisait tout dans la famille.”
Stopping the role
Elodie stopped organizing family tasks, saying, 'The day I stopped, nobody understood.'
“Le jour où j'ai arrêté, personne n'a compris.”
Invisible work
Elodie's work was invisible but essential, including renewing IDs, checking school supplies, planning Sunday meals, and remembering toothpaste.
Why it's hard
Others don't see the mental load, so they don't realize how much work Elodie did to keep everything running.
Sharing responsibility
Sharing the mental load means everyone helps with planning vacations, deadlines, and noticing what needs to be done.
What matters most
Elodie, 41, stopped managing family tasks, causing confusion as others didn't understand her role.
