From Psychologies · Laurena Valette · · 50s
Élodie 41: Family Organizer Stops
41-year-old Élodie stopped organizing family life, leaving others confused.
In brief
41-year-old Élodie stopped organizing family life, leaving others confused. Élodie, 41, stopped managing family tasks, causing confusion as others didn't understand her invisible mental load. Originally reported by Psychologies.
Élodie, 41
Élodie, 41, was the one organizing everything in the family.
“J'etais celle qui organisait tout dans la famille.”
She stopped organizing
She stopped organizing family life, leaving others confused.
“Le jour où j'ai arrêté, personne n'a compris.”
Invisible mental load
Her mental load was invisible but constant, causing fatigue for many.
“Tant qu'il était assuré, personne ne le remarquait.”
Why she became organizer
She became the natural family organizer due to invisible tasks and constant anticipation.
“Les décisions sont souvent prises à deux.”
Why others don't see it
Others don't see the mental load because they only see the results, not the micro-decisions.
“Plus quelqu'un semble gérer facilement, plus son entourage risque de croire qu'il ou elle n'a pas besoin d'aide.”
Sharing responsibility
Sharing mental responsibility makes family tasks visible and reduces invisible burden.
“L'enjeu n'est donc pas de devenir une meilleure organisatrice, mais d'accepter et de faire accepter que l'organisation elle-même puisse enfin devenir une responsabilité collective.”
The short version
Élodie, 41, stopped managing family tasks, causing confusion as others didn't understand her invisible mental load.
