From Psychologies · Bokhobza Olivia · · 1m 10s
Happy kids need connection, not perfection
Psychologist Sonja Lyubomirsky reveals two research-backed principles that matter more than trying to be a perfect parent.
In brief
Psychologist Sonja Lyubomirsky reveals two research-backed principles that matter more than trying to be a perfect parent. Deep conversations and physical affection are the two most important practices for raising happy children. Originally reported by Psychologies.
Happiness is partly in our control
Genes determine 50% of our happiness, life circumstances 10%, and our choices 40%. Parents can influence their children's happiness through intentional actions.
Teach the art of deep conversation
The best way to be happier is feeling closer to others. Deep, meaningful conversations are the most effective practice for creating and maintaining closeness.
“Essayez de vous intéresser aux centres d'intérêt de vos amis, discutez davantage avec eux et posez-leur des questions”
Deep talks are a learnable skill
The ability to have meaningful conversations can be taught through education and strengthened throughout life. It's essential for long-term happiness.
Physical contact is essential
Hugs and physical touch are critical for child development, yet parents do this less as children grow. Research shows it's essential throughout childhood.
“quelque chose que nous faisons de moins en moins, surtout à mesure que les enfants grandissent”
Hugs build future relationships
Teaching a child to find comfort in an embrace helps them develop healthy friendships, romantic relationships, and family bonds later in life.
“La clé du bonheur est de se sentir aimé et connecté aux autres”
The one thing
Deep conversations and physical affection are the two most important practices for raising happy children.
