From Psychologies · Guillaume Servant · · 1m 10s
Intelligent People Use This Phrase to Resolve Disagreements
Highly intelligent people use 'I understand your view, but...' to resolve conflicts without losing the relationship.
In brief
Highly intelligent people use 'I understand your view, but...' to resolve conflicts without losing the relationship. People with high emotional intelligence use a specific phrase to express disagreement while preserving relationships. Originally reported by Psychologies.
Highly intelligent people resolve disagreements
Psychologists say people with high emotional intelligence use a specific phrase to manage disagreements without conflict.
“Les psys sont formels : les personnes les plus intelligentes ne veulent pas avoir le dernier mot, elles utilisent cette phrase quand elles ne sont pas d'accord avec quelqu'un”
Conflict often escalates without this phrase
During family dinners or meetings where opinions clash, arguments often turn into personal fights rather than solutions.
“Dès que l'on se sent attaqué, le cerveau passe en mode défense et la discussion tourne vite au règlement de comptes”
High emotional intelligence enables calm disagreement
People with high emotional intelligence recognize others' thoughts without feeling threatened and express disagreement while preserving the relationship.
“Une personne capable de pensée de haut niveau reconnaît les autres pensées, croyances et idées qui ne correspondent pas forcément aux siennes”
The phrase 'I understand your view, but...' works
This two-part phrase validates the other person's view first before explaining their own perspective without attacking.
“Je comprends votre point de vue, mais pour moi cela ressemble plutôt à ceci”
Why this phrase reduces conflict
Validating the other person's view first creates emotional security and allows both perspectives to coexist without personal attacks.
“Quand quelqu'un entend 'Je peux voir comment vous pouvez le voir de cette façon', il perçoit que sa façon de penser est légitime”
This approach creates lasting peace
Using this phrase builds empathy and keeps discussions focused on the problem rather than personal feelings.
“Le langage diplomatique transmet de l'empathie pour la position de l'autre personne tout en exprimant vos préoccupations”
What it means
People with high emotional intelligence use a specific phrase to express disagreement while preserving relationships.
