From Psychologies · Louise Leboyer · · 50s
Je n'aime pas rester seul chez moi
Psychologue Claire Petin explains why people who never stay alone aren't necessarily extroverted but flee deeper issues.
In brief
Psychologue Claire Petin explains why people who never stay alone aren't necessarily extroverted but flee deeper issues. People who avoid solitude aren't always extroverted; they may fear deeper emotional issues. Originally reported by Psychologies.
The fear of solitude
People who never stay alone aren't necessarily extroverted but flee deeper issues.
“Je n'aime pas rester seul chez moi”
Claire Petin's insight
Psychologist Claire Petin explains why people who avoid solitude aren't always extroverted.
“Les personnes qui multiplient les sorties ne sont pas forcément extraverties”
Why they flee solitude
They fear others will judge them as lonely or unloved when alone.
“Elles imaginent que les autres vont penser qu'elles n'ont pas d'amis”
The deeper fear
They associate solitude with being unloved or pathetically alone.
“Il peut y avoir derrière ces pensées une association assez forte entre l'être seul et l'idée de ne pas être suffisamment aimé”
The self-focused fear
They dislike their own company even when others aren't present.
“Certaines personnes apprécient peu leur propre compagnie”
Learning to be alone
Solitude helps understand needs and desires without others.
“Quand nous sommes avec les autres, même dans les relations les plus agréables, nous nous ajustons en permanence”
In short
People who avoid solitude aren't always extroverted; they may fear deeper emotional issues.
