From Psychologies · Cécilia Ouibrahim · · 1m 20s
Why Not Sharing Life Isn't Secret
Psychiatrist Serge Tisseron explains why some people don't share their lives publicly but still have strong identities.
In brief
Psychiatrist Serge Tisseron explains why some people don't share their lives publicly but still have strong identities. People who don't share their lives widely aren't secretly hiding; they maintain boundaries for mental health and authenticity. Originally reported by Psychologies.
Quick answers
- Why Not Share Everything?
- Not sharing life isn't a lack of confidence but a sign of strong identity and the ability to set boundaries.
- What is the key takeaway from Why Not Sharing Life Isn't Secret?
- People who don't share their lives widely aren't secretly hiding; they maintain boundaries for mental health and authenticity.
Why Not Sharing Life Isn't Secret
People who don't share their lives widely aren't secretly hiding; they maintain boundaries for mental health and authenticity.
“Les personnes qui ne racontent pas leur vie à tout le monde ne sont pas forcément secrètes”
Society's Image Overload
Social media amplifies the need to show life through curated images and stories for likes, not real experiences.
“On poste désormais une image de ce que l'on mange avant de le goûter”
The Visibility Norm
Visibility has become a social norm since the 1970s, with individuals crafting identities for validation through online presence.
“Le processus est né dès les années 1970, avec des dynamiques socioculturelles d'individuation”
Why Not Share Everything?
Not sharing life isn't a lack of confidence but a sign of strong identity and the ability to set boundaries.
“Non par peur des autres ou manque de confiance en soi, mais peut-être, au contraire, est-ce le signe d'une identité solide”
The Concept of Opacity
Opacity allows people to be present without being fully visible, recognized without being accessible, and loved without being completely known.
“Nous avons tous et toutes « droit à l'opacité »”
Serge Tisseron's Extimité
Serge Tisseron describes 'extimité' as sharing fragments of inner life for validation while maintaining privacy.
“Le processus par lequel des fragments du soi intime sont proposés au regard d'autrui afin d'être validés”
4 Ways to Stay Retired
Timidness, introversion, modesty, and discretion are distinct ways to maintain distance without losing identity.
“La timidité est un caractère subi, un inconfort, parfois une souffrance”
Balancing Self and Society
Finding balance between what you show and what you keep is key to mental health and authentic relationships.
“De trouver la lisière, parfois ténue, entre la visibilité qui nous nourrit et la dépendance excessive au regard d'autrui”
The takeaway
People who don't share their lives widely aren't secretly hiding; they maintain boundaries for mental health and authenticity.
