From Slate Magazine · Arionne Nettles · · 40s
Dad's Death, Mom's Gloom
Daughter asks mom to stop mocking dad after his death.
In brief
Daughter asks mom to stop mocking dad after his death. Daughter seeks help for mother's mean-spirited comments about deceased father. Originally reported by Slate Magazine.
Daughter writes
Daughter shares her father's death and mother's negative reaction.
“My parents divorced when I was in high school after years of misery”
Mother's response
Mother claims she earned the right to gloat over father's death.
“She will tell anyone who will listen what an awful guy my dad was”
Expert advice
Expert suggests talking to mother when she's not making negative comments.
“Have a talk with her when she’s not making those comments and when no one else is around”
Daughter's request
Daughter wants mother to stop negative comments about father.
“What can I do to get her to keep her negative comments to herself”
Expert's solution
Expert says daughter might need to pause relationship if mother won't change.
“If she is still unwilling to change, I think you might want to put your relationship on pause”
What matters most
Daughter seeks help for mother's mean-spirited comments about deceased father.
