From Slate Magazine · Ilyce Glink · · 1m 10s
Friend's Wedding Cash Gripe
A friend's decades-old wedding cash theft claim strains a long-term friendship.
In brief
A friend's decades-old wedding cash theft claim strains a long-term friendship. A woman recalls her friend accusing her of stealing wedding cash from a church room decades ago, but she insists she didn't take it. Originally reported by Slate Magazine.
Friend's Wedding Cash Gripe
A friend has accused me of stealing cash from her church wedding room for decades.
“Betsy mentioned (once again) that during the wedding, money was taken out of her wallet”
Decades of Accusations
She brings up the incident every time I see her since college, even though I didn't take the money.
“It’s probably been every time I’ve seen her in the years since it happened”
My Financial Situation
I was a poor single mom with a young toddler when this happened, but I didn't take the cash.
“I was a poor single mom with a young toddler and probably needed the money”
Her Unspoken Fear
She thinks I stole her money but never asked me directly, so I don't know what she believes.
“It’s idea that she thinks you helped yourself to her money that is is gnawing at you”
My Response
I want to say I didn't take the money and stop her from bringing it up, but I'm worried about our friendship.
“I feel like I need to set the record straight. I didn’t take it and I wish you’d stop bringing it up”
What Happens Next
If she mentions it again, I'll acknowledge how hard it was for her and ask who might have taken the money.
“I remember. That must have been so awful for you, especially at that time in our lives”
What matters most
A woman recalls her friend accusing her of stealing wedding cash from a church room decades ago, but she insists she didn't take it.
