From Slate Magazine · Elizabeth Spiers, Lillian Karabaic · · 3m
Hobby Costs More Than Postpartum Depression
A woman’s horseback riding hobby costs more than her husband’s objections to it.
In brief
A woman’s horseback riding hobby costs more than her husband’s objections to it. A woman who overcame postpartum depression through horseback riding wants to buy her own horse but her husband refuses, claiming it’s too expensive. Originally reported by Slate Magazine.
Postpartum Depression
A woman suffered severe postpartum depression after having her child and tried therapy and medication but neither worked.
Horseback Riding Helped
After five years of horseback riding, she felt like her pre-baby self again and was more confident and healthy.
Horse Ownership Plan
She mapped out all horse-owning financials, pros and cons but her husband refused to allow her to buy her own horse.
Husband’s Objections
Her husband said he would be happy with her and their child riding one day per week and hated the idea of owning a horse.
Strip Club Comparison
Her husband compared her horse hobby to spending multiple days per week at a strip club, which she called an unhealthy habit and immature comparison.
Horse Hobby Alternatives
Her husband suggested cheaper hobbies like running or knitting instead of buying a horse.
Financial Reality
She earns $50,000 more than her husband and both have six figures income, so she can afford her own horse.
Husband’s Control Issue
Her husband’s refusal to let her ride horses is a control issue because he doesn’t understand her hobby and its benefits.
Husband’s Advice
Her husband said he would be happy with her and their child riding one day per week and that’s it.
Horse Hobby Benefits
She and her child enjoy riding together and have a fantastic time bonding most weeks.
Husband’s Strips Club Comment
Her husband said, 'What if I spent multiple days per week at a strip club while you were at the barn/riding?'
“What if I spent multiple days per week at a strip club while you were at the barn/riding?”
Horse Hobby Cost
She has mapped out all horse-owning financials, pros and cons but her husband refuses to allow her to buy her own horse.
Husband’s Financial Concerns
Her husband is worried about the cost of horse ownership and time involvement, so he stopped her from leasing horses.
Horse Hobby Impact
Her husband’s bad attitude about horses and horse ownership is ruining the fun of riding for her and their child.
Horse Hobby Decision
She is almost at the point where she wants to quit riding altogether and hide in a cave.
Husband’s Advice
Her husband needs to understand that he cannot stand in the way of something that brings her joy simply because he does not understand it.
The short version
A woman who overcame postpartum depression through horseback riding wants to buy her own horse but her husband refuses, claiming it’s too expensive.
