From Slate Magazine · Rich Juzwiak, Jessica Stoya · · 2m
My Ex Wanted Something Dangerous in Bed. She Found Someone Who Would Do It, and It’s Not Pretty
A woman hospitalized after a throat knife wound from her ex's BDSM fantasy.
In brief
A woman hospitalized after a throat knife wound from her ex's BDSM fantasy. A woman hospitalized with a throat knife wound after her ex tried to fulfill a dangerous BDSM fantasy involving simulated rape at knifepoint. Originally reported by Slate Magazine.
Ex's Dangerous Fantasy
A woman hospitalized after a throat knife wound from her ex's BDSM fantasy involving simulated rape at knifepoint.
“She played at being 'raped' at knifepoint”
Ex's Experience
He tried the fantasy once and focused on preventing severe cuts, making the experience unpleasant for him.
“Care always needs to be taken with BDSM, but when you have a bare Yawara involved, making sure I didn’t cut her in half occupied the overwhelming majority of my attention”
Relationship Outcome
They stopped seeing each other sexually after arguing about the dangerous fantasy.
“We argued about that, and wound up stop seeing each other sexually”
Current Situation
She is hospitalized with a throat knife wound, showing signs of severe injury.
“She’s in the hospital for a knife wound on her throat”
Health Status
She has no permanent tracheal damage but is at risk of life-threatening injuries.
“She said she doesn’t appear to have any permanent tracheal damage”
Ex's Concerns
He worries about her extreme risks and wants to warn her about the dangerous sexual practice.
“I’m not much more than a casual acquaintance these days, and I’m wondering what I could be doing to warn her about the extreme risks of her lifestyle”
Expert Advice
Experts suggest checking her mental state and social relationships to help her feel more important than the dangerous practice.
“I’d check in on her general mental state. How’s she feeling about life? How are her social relationships?”
Mental Health Focus
Experts recommend addressing her mental health and social connections to improve her overall well-being.
“How is she handling this massive pandemic we’re all still navigating through? Is there any way you can support her self-care skills?”
Current Advice
He is concerned about the immediate risks and wants to help her feel more important than the dangerous sexual practice.
“Basically, how can you meet her where she is and help her feel good enough about life that it becomes more important than this one, deeply dangerous, sexual practice?”
Hospitalization Details
She is hospitalized for a throat knife wound, with no permanent tracheal damage reported.
“She said she doesn’t appear to have any permanent tracheal damage”
Risk Assessment
The sexual practice she engages in could immediately kill her, raising serious safety concerns.
“I really think she’s slipped off the edge into wanting a sort of sex that could actually and immediately kill her”
Ex's Current Role
He is now a casual acquaintance and wants to help her avoid dangerous sexual practices.
“I’m not much more than a casual acquaintance these days”
Mental Health Support
Experts recommend addressing her mental health and social connections to improve her overall well-being.
“How is she handling this massive pandemic we’re all still navigating through? Is there any way you can support her self-care skills?”
Current Advice
He is concerned about the immediate risks and wants to help her feel more important than the dangerous sexual practice.
“Basically, how can you meet her where she is and help her feel good enough about life that it becomes more important than this one, deeply dangerous, sexual practice?”
Hospitalization Status
She is hospitalized for a throat knife wound with no permanent tracheal damage reported.
“She said she doesn’t appear to have any permanent tracheal damage”
Ex's Concerns
He worries about her extreme risks and wants to warn her about the dangerous sexual practice.
“I’m not much more than a casual acquaintance these days, and I’m wondering what I could be doing to warn her about the extreme risks of her lifestyle”
What to remember
A woman hospitalized with a throat knife wound after her ex tried to fulfill a dangerous BDSM fantasy involving simulated rape at knifepoint.
