From Slate Magazine · Rich Juzwiak · · 1m 20s
My husband watches the neighbor's yoga class. Alone.
A woman writes to an advice column about her husband masturbating while watching their neighbor's outdoor yoga sessions.
In brief
A woman writes to an advice column about her husband masturbating while watching their neighbor's outdoor yoga sessions. The columnist argues the real problem isn't the act itself but that the husband revealed it to his wife, damaging their relationship. Originally reported by Slate Magazine.
Quick answers
- Is it illegal or immoral?
- The columnist says if the husband is completely hidden and undetectable, it's not necessarily illegal or immoral. People fantasize about observed material all the time.
- What is the key takeaway from My husband watches the neighbor's yoga class. Alone.?
- The columnist argues the real problem isn't the act itself but that the husband revealed it to his wife, damaging their relationship.
The neighbor's yoga class problem
A woman's husband frequently masturbates while watching their neighbor's outdoor yoga sessions from their second story window. She thinks it's wrong. He says no one is being hurt.
Is it illegal or immoral?
The columnist says if the husband is completely hidden and undetectable, it's not necessarily illegal or immoral. People fantasize about observed material all the time.
The yoga students don't know
The women in the yoga class are unaware of what's happening, so they're not being hurt. What they don't know won't affect them.
“what they don't know not hurting them”
The real mistake was telling you
The columnist says the husband's biggest error was letting his wife know about his behavior. That's what created the actual problem in their relationship.
Make it about your feelings
The columnist advises the wife to explain how this affects her directly, like making her less attracted to him or less likely to have sex. A moral argument alone probably won't work.
The key point
The columnist argues the real problem isn't the act itself but that the husband revealed it to his wife, damaging their relationship.
