From Slate Magazine · Rich Juzwiak · · 1m 40s
Sex Advice Column: PrEP Stigma and Post-Breakup Healing
Non-binary person shares PrEP struggles amid stigma while seeking post-breakup dating advice.
In brief
Non-binary person shares PrEP struggles amid stigma while seeking post-breakup dating advice. Non-binary person navigates PrEP stigma and post-breakup healing with mixed relationship advice. Originally reported by Slate Magazine.
PrEP Prescription
I just got my first prescription after two condom breaks in the same night.
“I’ve been thinking of getting on pre-exposure prophylaxis (PrEP) for a while”
Identity and Fear
I’m non-binary, assigned female at birth, with no current hormone replacement therapy or gender affirming surgery.
“I sleep with men, women, non-binary people, trans or not, and have multiple partners at a time”
Workplace Stigma
I’m scared of judgment from regular providers and colleagues if they find out.
“I work in the healthcare industry, so I’m scared of judgment”
HIV Testing Concerns
I’ve already got weird looks for asking for throat and anal swabs.
“Like, how do you explain you don’t need HIV post-exposure prophylaxis when you get a little bit of blood on a mild scratch”
Stigma in Conservative Culture
There’s also that stigma that comes with being AFAB with multiple partners in a largely conservative culture.
“I’m so happy to start it, but I’m at a loss as to how to navigate any potential social stigma”
PrEP Benefits
PrEP is an effective way with few side effects to remain HIV negative.
“People won’t necessarily understand why you’re on PrEP, but their ignorance does not trump your awareness of what is right for your body”
Workplace Advantage
Being protected and not needing emergency PEP is an asset in your line of work, not a liability.
“You don’t have to explain beyond saying, 'I’m on PrEP'”
Post-Breakup Healing
I recently broke up with my partner of 11 years after a painful but necessary breakup.
“It’s been three weeks, so I’m definitely still in mourning”
Healing Timeline
Moderation is key: sex can be a positive way to get back in touch with yourself after a rough relationship.
“There’s a lot of good to glean from connecting with another person and being kind and giving to them”
Single Life
I’m 21, gay and trans in a small town, feeling forlorn without relationships.
“I am likely to move quite far after I graduate from university”
Community Building
Join on-campus LGBTQ+ clubs or visit off-campus queer spaces to find community.
“There is basically a subreddit for every label you could ever think of applying to yourself”
Long-Term Perspective
Your youth doesn’t make your angst any less real, but your future holds opportunities for dating and connection.
“You have your whole life ahead of you”
Next Steps
Try not to use sex as an escape from life but as an enhancement for it.
“If you find yourself stuck in a space where you are constantly having or searching for sex, rethink your choices”
At a glance
Non-binary person navigates PrEP stigma and post-breakup healing with mixed relationship advice.
