From Slate Magazine · Jessica Stoya · · 1m 20s
Sex Advice: From Husbands to Blowing Jobs
A woman shares how her husband’s confidence in sex transformed her from silent to active participant after eight years of marriage.
In brief
A woman shares how her husband’s confidence in sex transformed her from silent to active participant after eight years of marriage. After eight years of marriage, a woman who previously avoided oral sex now actively engages during intimacy thanks to her husband’s confidence. Originally reported by Slate Magazine.
Eight years of silence
After eight years of marriage, I still hadn’t sucked my husband’s dick.
“I have, however, been moving my body, generally engaging, and opening my eyes a whole lot more.”
Husband’s confidence
My husband’s confidence in sex helped me feel less awkward and more present.
“I finally feel like an active participant.”
First steps
Starting small with a lick or glance helped me build confidence without pressure.
“Jessica’s encouragement to start small and wherever I saw fit, a lick here, a glance there, helped me.”
Active participation
Now I talk and move during sex, a change I didn’t expect after eight years.
“After eight years, I have to say I did not see that coming!”
Thank you
Thanking Jessica for her advice helped me feel less like a freak and more in control.
“Writing in made me feel like less of a freak, and showed me a path toward feeling more in control.”
Marriage update
We are now married with a good sex life and no oral sex history.
“We are now married (yay!), we have a very good sex life (cool!), and I still ain’t sucked that man’s dick (super fine!).”
Confidence gained
I now feel proud of my progress instead of frustrated for no good reason.
“Now I get to be proud of myself instead of being frustrated and disappointed for no good reason.”
Active participant
I am now an active participant in my marital bedroom, a change I didn’t expect.
“I finally feel like an active participant.”
Thank you
Thank you for your advice, which helped me feel more in control of my behavior.
“This brings me to…”
The short version
After eight years of marriage, a woman who previously avoided oral sex now actively engages during intimacy thanks to her husband’s confidence.
