Kyle MacLachlan on Becoming Trey MacDougal

Kyle MacLachlan reveals how he embraced his role as the impotent, semi-cuckold character Trey MacDougal in Sex and the City.

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Kyle MacLachlan on Becoming Trey MacDougal

Kyle MacLachlan reveals how he embraced his role as the impotent, semi-cuckold character Trey MacDougal in Sex and the City.

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Kyle MacLachlan reveals how he embraced his role as the impotent, semi-cuckold character Trey MacDougal in Sex and the City. Kyle MacLachlan played Trey MacDougal, an impotent and semi-cuckold character on Sex and the City, after meeting Desiree Gruber. Originally reported by Vanity Fair.

Kyle's early failures

Kyle admits his failures shape his wisdom.

“I’ve learned over the years to own my failures, not that I have much of a choice”

The back pain meeting

Kyle meets Desiree at a chiropractor while back pain worsens.

“Sitting in my traction chair, I see a woman walk past the door of the room: tall, with long dark hair”

First date with Desiree

First date with Desiree

Kyle takes Desiree to the Apple Pan for burgers.

“I love burgers. Then that’s where I’m taking you on our first date”

Sex and the City pitch

Kyle meets with HBO showrunners for Sex and the City.

“You’re doing it. You have to.”

Trey's impotence

Trey is impotent and bathes with his mother.

“He’s impotent. He can’t get it up. He takes baths with his mother.”

Kyle's internal conflict

Kyle MacLachlan and Kristin Davis in season 3 of Sex and the City

Kyle struggles with Trey's unrealistic behavior.

“He’s already cast. Jesus, Kyle. You’re the only actor who’d join a show about sex and not have any”

Marriage decision

Kyle and Desiree decide to marry.

“Let’s get married”

Trey's cardboard baby

Trey gives Charlotte a cardboard baby to cope with infertility.

“Trey, in an attempt to assuage Charlotte’s pain over not being able to conceive, gives her a cardboard baby”

Trey's exit

Trey leaves Sex and the City with dignity.

“Trey exits the series with some dignity, showing up for Charlotte by pretending their marriage is in working order”

Parasocial connection

Fans see Kyle as Trey, not himself.

“Some fans identify me only as trey: That’s who I’ll always be”

Twin Peaks contrast

Kyle compares TV acting to film in Twin Peaks.

“You’re inside people’s homes, the same time every week, so you’re part of their routine”

The Flintstones reference

Kyle jokes about playing in the Flintstones.

“I was in the flintstones, for chrissake”

Kyle's Scottish wedding

Kyle wears a kilt for Trey and Charlotte’s wedding.

“I wear a kilt and sporran; there’s haggis and prickly thistles”

Trey's marital struggle

Trey and Charlotte struggle to hold their marriage together.

“Trey and Charlotte are struggling to hold on to their marriage”

Kyle's final choice

Kyle chooses to marry Desiree despite inner conflict.

“Let’s get married, and it feels good to do so”

The aftermath

Kyle reflects on his role as Trey MacDougal.

“It’s fascinating to me how personally people take sex and the city”

The short version

Kyle MacLachlan played Trey MacDougal, an impotent and semi-cuckold character on Sex and the City, after meeting Desiree Gruber.

Read the original on Vanity Fair

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