# Being the Reasonable Brother Changes Relationships Today

> How growing up as the family's 'reasonable' one affects adult relationships.
- Title: Being the Reasonable Brother Changes Relationships Today
- Summary: How growing up as the family's 'reasonable' one affects adult relationships. Children who took on adult responsibilities as kids face higher anxiety and…
- Keywords: parentification, anxiety, depression, relationship, childhood, adult, psychology, psychologists, Reasonable, Brother, Changes, Relationships
- Source: Psychologies — https://psychologies.com/moi/se-connaitre/Vous-avez-grandi-en-etant-le-raisonnable-de-la-fratrie-ce-que-cela-change-encore-aujourdhui-dans-vos-relations-642323
- Author: Nina Parage
- Published: 2026-09-30T15:01:54+00:00
- Read time: 1 min
- Topics: parentification, anxiety, depression, relationship, childhood, adult, psychology, psychologists
## The Reasonable Child Role
You were the one who comforted parents and calmed family fights, never causing problems.

> Vous étiez celle qui consolait maman, celui qui calmait les disputes, l'enfant qui "n'avait jamais posé de problème".
## Parentification's Adult Effects
Research shows a weak but reliable link between childhood parentification and adult psychological issues.

> Dans une méta-analyse de 2011, la psychologue Lisa Hooper et son équipe ont compilé 12 études indépendantes, soit 2 472 participants, et relevé un effet faible mais fiable entre parentification dans l'enfance et troubles psychologiques à l'âge adulte.
## Turkish Student Study
A 2026 study of 448 Turkish students found parentification linked to higher anxiety and depression symptoms.

> Une étude menée auprès de 448 étudiants turcs a montré que la parentification centrée sur les parents allait de pair avec davantage d'anxiété et de symptômes dépressifs.
## Relationship Strain in Couples
Adults who took on parental roles in childhood may feel overwhelmed in relationships, leading to burnout.

> Les chercheurs notent que les personnes parentifiées dans l'enfance étaient enclines à accepter ce rôle auprès de leur conjoint, au prix d'un épuisement dans leur relation.
## The Real Work of Adulthood
Learning to ask for help and set boundaries reduces relationship strain for those who grew up as the 'reasonable' child.

> Oser demander de l'aide, poser une limite, laisser l'autre se débrouiller un peu. Apprendre à recevoir aussi bien qu'à donner est souvent le vrai travail d'adulte.
## Key takeaway

Children who took on adult responsibilities as kids face higher anxiety and depression in adulthood, but learning to ask for help reduces relationship strain.