# Dad's Death, Mom's Gloom

> Daughter asks mom to stop mocking dad after his death.
- Title: Dad's Death, Mom's Gloom · Slate Magazine | Shortify
- Summary: Daughter asks mom to stop mocking dad after his death. Daughter seeks help for mother's mean-spirited comments about deceased father.
- Keywords: disillusioned daughter, mom, dad, stroke, divorced parents, family advice, Dad's, Death, Mom's, Gloom, Slate Magazine
- Source: Slate Magazine — https://slate.com/advice/2026/10/family-advice-divorced-parents-death-reaction.html?via=rss
- Author: Arionne Nettles
- Published: 2026-10-12T10:00:00+00:00
- Read time: 1 min
- Topics: disillusioned daughter, mom, dad, stroke, divorced parents, family advice
## Daughter writes
Daughter shares her father's death and mother's negative reaction.

> My parents divorced when I was in high school after years of misery
## Mother's response
Mother claims she earned the right to gloat over father's death.

> She will tell anyone who will listen what an awful guy my dad was
## Expert advice
Expert suggests talking to mother when she's not making negative comments.

> Have a talk with her when she’s not making those comments and when no one else is around
## Daughter's request
Daughter wants mother to stop negative comments about father.

> What can I do to get her to keep her negative comments to herself
## Expert's solution
Expert says daughter might need to pause relationship if mother won't change.

> If she is still unwilling to change, I think you might want to put your relationship on pause
## Key takeaway

Daughter seeks help for mother's mean-spirited comments about deceased father.