# Family Group Chat Abuse

> Wife finds husband’s family group chat full of insults.
- Title: Family Group Chat Abuse · Slate Magazine | Shortify
- Summary: Wife finds husband’s family group chat full of insults. Wife discovered hateful messages from mother-in-law in family group chat after husband criticized her…
- Keywords: family group chat, husband, mother-in-law, wife, abuse, relationship, Family, Group, Chat, Slate Magazine
- Source: Slate Magazine — https://slate.com/advice/2026/10/marriage-advice-family-group-chat-messages.html?via=rss
- Author: Jenée Desmond-Harris
- Published: 2026-10-07T10:00:00+00:00
- Read time: 1 min
- Topics: family group chat, husband, mother-in-law, wife, abuse, relationship
## Family group chat
Wife was added to husband’s family group chat after mother-in-law made a nasty comment about her.
## Hateful messages found
Wife searched for her name and found more than a dozen hateful messages from mother-in-law.
## Wife’s response
Wife replied with variations of 'This is a lie', 'How could you?', 'I thought we were friends!', and 'You should be ashamed of yourself'.
## Family storm
Mother-in-law left the group because she 'is being attacked' while some family members apologized to wife.

> is being attacked
## Husband’s criticism
Husband criticized wife for upsetting his mother by saying she 'is old and not going to change'.

> is old and not going to change
## Wife’s reaction
Wife said she needed time away from husband and family who would abuse her behind her back.
## Relationship status
Wife and husband stopped talking after wife felt unsupported by family and husband.
## Wife’s question
Wife asked if relationship was salvageable and if she should try to fix it.
## Prudence’s advice
Prudence said relationship was salvageable but husband should support wife more.
## Wife’s next steps
Wife should return to husband, explain how hurt she was, and tell him what she wants him to do.
## Husband’s family dynamics
Husband’s family has harsh criticism and twisted accountability that affects his behavior.
## Relationship outcome
Wife and husband stopped talking after wife felt unsupported by family and husband.
## Key takeaway

Wife discovered hateful messages from mother-in-law in family group chat after husband criticized her response to abuse.