# Grief Two Decades Later

> A mother shares how her grief after stillbirth has evolved over 22 years.
- Title: Grief Two Decades Later · MadeForMums | Shortify
- Summary: A mother shares how her grief after stillbirth has evolved over 22 years. Virginia Williams describes her enduring grief two decades after her son's…
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- Source: MadeForMums — https://madeformums.com/apple-news/living-with-grief-after-stillbirth
- Read time: 1 min
- Topics: victoria williams, ben, stillbirth, grief, baby loss, motherhood, child loss, baby loss awareness week
## He’s gone
Virginia Williams’ son Ben was stillborn three days before his due date on December 30, 2003.
## The Shattering Moment
Her doctor told her on New Year’s Eve morning, 'He had a knot in his umbilical cord.'

> He had a knot in his umbilical cord
## 22 Years of Grief
Virginia has lived with grief for 22 years since Ben’s stillbirth.
## Early Grief Struggles
She cried everywhere: grocery stores, preschool, noticing whispers about her flat stomach.
## The First Year
She marked every day, week, month since Ben’s death and celebrated his first birthdays.
## The Second Year
She realized she had to learn to live without Ben, not just cope with grief.
## The Unending Grief
She still cries on Ben’s birthday but lights a special candle to honor him.
## Living With Loss
Virginia sends money to children’s charities in Ben’s memory every year.
## Key takeaway

Virginia Williams describes her enduring grief two decades after her son's stillbirth.