# Homeschooled Dating Struggles

> Homeschooled person seeks consistent partners but attracts flaky neurodivergent friends.
- Title: Homeschooled Dating Struggles · Slate Magazine | Shortify
- Summary: Homeschooled person seeks consistent partners but attracts flaky neurodivergent friends. Homeschooled person finds consistent partners by being generous with…
- Keywords: homeschooled, neurodivergent, dating, consistency, relationship, flakiness, Struggles, Slate Magazine
- Source: Slate Magazine — https://slate.com/advice/2026/09/sex-advice-dating-homeschool-sex-ghosting-neurodivergent.html?via=rss
- Author: Rich Juzwiak
- Published: 2026-09-26T16:00:00+00:00
- Read time: 1 min
- Topics: homeschooled, neurodivergent, dating, consistency, relationship, flakiness
## Homeschooled dating pattern
Homeschooled person describes social skills progress but attracts flaky neurodivergent friends.

> I was homeschooled K-12, and while I have made huge progress in the subsequent years in developing social skills
## Flaky relationships
Friends and partners disappear for long stretches without warning due to social overwhelm.

> They are almost always frankly, flakey, fellow-neurodivergent people who will disappear for long stretches without warning
## Consistency struggle
Homeschooled person needs consistent partners but consistent people don’t seem to be attracted to them.

> I need consistency. However, consistent people don’t seem to be attracted to me.
## Neurodivergent dynamics
Neurodivergent people often disappear due to social overwhelm, but return after long periods.

> I’ve had many experiences where I thought I’d alienated them and they gave up on me, and then eight months later, I get a text
## Advice response
Slate’s advice columnist says flakiness is common and offers consistency as a solution.

> Don’t blame yourself for other people’s flakiness. We live in a flaky world.
## Relationship advice
Be consistent and generous with time to attract partners who value your space.

> Be the consistency that you wish to receive. Let people fade out when they need to, and accept their fade back in with warmth.
## What happens next
Homeschooled person continues being generous with time and support to attract consistent partners.

> Keep being you, keep being generous with your time and support. Believe that someone will properly appreciate it eventually.
## Key takeaway

Homeschooled person finds consistent partners by being generous with time and support.