# Julie's Message Anxiety

> When someone doesn't reply to her message, 38-year-old Julie can't think of anything else.
- Title: Julie's Message Anxiety · Psychologies | Shortify
- Summary: When someone doesn't reply to her message, 38-year-old Julie can't think of anything else. Julie's anxiety over unresponded messages makes her unable to…
- Keywords: julie, anxiety, message, unresponded, psychologies, heidelberg, king's college london, Julie's
- Source: Psychologies — https://psychologies.com/moi/problemes-psy/anxiete-phobies/repond-pas-a-mon-message-je-suis-incapable-de-penser-a-autre-chose-642362
- Author: Laurena Valette
- Published: 2026-09-30T06:02:13+00:00
- Read time: 1 min
- Topics: julie, anxiety, message, unresponded, 38, psychologies, heidelberg, king's college london
## Julie's message anxiety
At 38, Julie feels unable to think of anything else when someone doesn't reply to her message.

> Quand quelqu'un ne répond pas à mon message, je suis incapable de penser à autre chose
## Why unresponded messages cause anxiety
The absence of response takes more space than the message itself, leading to worries about what went wrong.
## Social exclusion study
Heidelberg University researchers found smartphone users experience stronger social pain when excluded.
## Phone notifications create anxiety
Nicholas Kardaras compares phone notifications to intermittent rewards, making people check repeatedly.
## Solutions for message anxiety
Turning off notifications or leaving the phone away helps reduce anxiety about unresponded messages.
## What happens next
Julie learns that unresponded messages don't mean rejection but could be many things, including a full battery.
## Key takeaway

Julie's anxiety over unresponded messages makes her unable to focus on anything else.