# My husband watches the neighbor's yoga class. Alone.

> A woman writes to an advice column about her husband masturbating while watching their neighbor's outdoor yoga sessions.
- Title: My husband watches the neighbor's yoga class. Alone.
- Summary: A woman writes to an advice column about her husband masturbating while watching their neighbor's outdoor yoga sessions. The columnist argues the real…
- Keywords: marriage, masturbation, sex advice, neighbor conflict, privacy, relationship trust, slate advice column, husband, watches, neighbor's, yoga, class
- Source: Slate Magazine — https://slate.com/advice/2026/09/yoga-husband-sex-masturbation-neighbor-advice.html?via=rss
- Author: Rich Juzwiak
- Published: 2026-09-19T16:00:00+00:00
- Read time: 1 min
- Topics: marriage, masturbation, sex advice, neighbor conflict, privacy, relationship trust, slate advice column
## The neighbor's yoga class problem
A woman's husband frequently masturbates while watching their neighbor's outdoor yoga sessions from their second story window. She thinks it's wrong. He says no one is being hurt.
## Is it illegal or immoral?
The columnist says if the husband is completely hidden and undetectable, it's not necessarily illegal or immoral. People fantasize about observed material all the time.
## The yoga students don't know
The women in the yoga class are unaware of what's happening, so they're not being hurt. What they don't know won't affect them.

> what they don't know not hurting them
## The real mistake was telling you
The columnist says the husband's biggest error was letting his wife know about his behavior. That's what created the actual problem in their relationship.
## Make it about your feelings
The columnist advises the wife to explain how this affects her directly, like making her less attracted to him or less likely to have sex. A moral argument alone probably won't work.
## Key takeaway

The columnist argues the real problem isn't the act itself but that the husband revealed it to his wife, damaging their relationship.