# Sex Advice: Monogamy Trial Fails

> Gay man admits monogamy trial with boyfriend won't work after year.
- Title: Sex Advice: Monogamy Trial Fails · Slate Magazine | Shortify
- Summary: Gay man admits monogamy trial with boyfriend won't work after year. Gay man says monogamy trial with boyfriend failed after year due to his need for multiple…
- Keywords: monogamy, boyfriend, gay, sex, relationship, open relationship, trial, Advice, Fails, Slate Magazine
- Source: Slate Magazine — https://slate.com/advice/2026/10/sex-advice-gay-male-boyfriend-monogamy-open-relationship.html?via=rss
- Author: Rich Juzwiak
- Published: 2026-10-17T16:00:00+00:00
- Read time: 1 min
- Topics: monogamy, boyfriend, gay, sex, relationship, open relationship, trial
## Monogamy trial starts
A gay man agreed to try monogamy with his boyfriend after almost a decade together.
## Initial monogamy benefits
He enjoyed directing his sexual energy toward his boyfriend, who met him where he was.
## Year-long struggle
After almost a year, he missed having sex with other guys and felt a strong urge to reconnect.
## Boyfriend's expectations
His boyfriend wanted monogamy to be permanent and didn't want him to see other guys.
## Past monogamy experience
He was monogamous with another guy for nearly a decade before this relationship.
## Relationship struggle
He realized monogamy wasn't right for him after a year, but his boyfriend wanted it to last.
## What happens next
He must decide whether to stay with his boyfriend or pursue his need for multiple partners.
## Key takeaway

Gay man says monogamy trial with boyfriend failed after year due to his need for multiple partners.