# SlutCon: Flirting Boot Camp for Awkward Men > Men paid up to $18,000 to practice flirting with 'flirt girls' at a Berkeley AI safety event. - Title: SlutCon: Flirting Boot Camp for Awkward Men | Shortify - Summary: Men paid up to $18,000 to practice flirting with 'flirt girls' at a Berkeley AI safety event. SlutCon, a three-day flirting boot camp for awkward men, became… - Keywords: slutcon, berkeley, ai safety, flirt girls, gretta duleba, aella, chesed, lighthaven, slutstack, conflict, consent, flirt training - Source: The San Francisco Standard — https://sfstandard.com/2026/10/10/slutcon-flirting-boot-camp-ai - Published: 2026-10-10T13:00:00+00:00 - Read time: 2 min - Topics: slutcon, berkeley, ai safety, flirt girls, gretta duleba, aella, chesed, lighthaven, slutstack, conflict, consent, flirt training ## SlutCon Workshop Begins 10 men and 2 women sat in a workshop titled 'So You’ve Been Called a Creep' led by Gretta Duleba, a Google engineer turned AI alignment researcher. > It’s not an easy, kind word to throw around ## Flirt Girls and Training 95 'flirt girls' with green wristbands helped attendees practice flirting, while 59 received $500 after six hours of training. > The whole philosophy of this event is to ask and to be able to handle a no ## Men Pay Up to $18,000 111 men and one woman paid between $3,000 and $18,000 for SlutCon, with higher fees granting more feedback and instruction. > We want to provide healthy alternatives ## AI Safety Tensions SlutCon exposed tensions between Bay Area's sex-positive tech culture and the AI safety movement, with critics calling it a sex cult. > To say you’re not in a sex cult makes it sound like you’re in a sex cult ## Consent Rules Green wristbands indicated women were open to flirting but not to kissing or touching, with strict no-contact rules for flirt girls. > Guest lanyards were to be worn at all times, no meant no ## Flirt Girls' Perspectives Flirt girls like Cassie and Amina Green shared experiences of feeling safer at SlutCon but also faced online criticism about their roles. > I’m actually a lot less freaky than I thought ## Online Controversy Critics accused SlutCon of being a prostitution front or orgy recruitment, with viral posts claiming it was a 'consensual rape orgy' for AI safety crowds. > No CNC orgy took place, and no orgy took place ## AI Safety Concerns Attendees included AI doomers worried about the future, with one saying they want kids even if they have only six to eight years to live. > It’s very top of mind for the people who come to these sorts of things ## Women's Experience Women attended SlutCon for various reasons, including learning about themselves, finding community, or giving feedback, with some feeling more comfortable than men. > Oh God, I’m supposed to be here for the men, but actually, I’m enjoying my interactions with the women the most ## Event Consequences SlutCon organizers added a women-only 'sapphic mingle' after demand, acknowledging the event's impact on women's safety and comfort. > For them, this is a love letter to men and a way to heal gender relations ## Closing Ceremony At the closing, organizers warned men not to take SlutCon's lessons literally when reentering the real world. > Some of the stuff you learned here won’t translate directly don’t try it at the bar ## AI Safety Movement The AI safety movement, with 60-year-old voters in Ohio, faces credibility challenges from SlutCon's association with sex-positive tech culture. > It’s very much a double standard ## Flirt Girls' Training Flirt girls received $500 after six hours of training on establishing boundaries and practicing rejection. > I need practice just pushing that gradient ## Event Attendance 111 men and one woman paid between $3,000 and $18,000 to attend SlutCon, with higher fees granting more programming and feedback. > The ratio of women is definitely a lot better ## Consent Rules Green wristbands indicated women were open to flirting but not to kissing or touching, with strict no-contact rules for flirt girls. > Guest lanyards were to be worn at all times, no meant no ## Online Criticism Critics accused SlutCon of being a prostitution front or orgy recruitment, with viral posts claiming it was a 'consensual rape orgy' for AI safety crowds. > No CNC orgy took place, and no orgy took place ## Key takeaway SlutCon, a three-day flirting boot camp for awkward men, became a point of contention between Bay Area sex-positive tech culture and AI safety advocates.