# Squirting and Partner Dynamics > Partner comfort trumps technique for squirting success. - Title: Squirting and Partner Dynamics · Slate Magazine | Shortify - Summary: Partner comfort trumps technique for squirting success. Squirting requires individual anatomy and partner comfort, not specific techniques, to achieve. - Keywords: squirting, partner comfort, anatomy, technique, sex educator, lola jean, comfort, individual physiology, partner role, sex advice, Partner, Dynamics - Source: Slate Magazine — https://slate.com/advice/2026/09/sex-advice-girlfriend-squirting-body-technique.html?via=rss - Author: Rich Juzwiak - Published: 2026-09-27T16:00:00+00:00 - Read time: 1 min - Topics: squirting, partner comfort, anatomy, technique, sex educator, lola jean, comfort, individual physiology, partner role, sex advice ## Squirting Basics Squirting can be cultivated with time, patience, and muscle control according to sex educator Lola Jean. > Squirting can be cultivated with "time, patience, and muscle control" ## Not Everyone Can Squirting Not everyone who thinks they can’t squirt actually can’t and not everyone who tries will be able to. > Not everyone who thinks they can’t squirt actually can’t and not everyone who tries will be able to ## Partner Comfort Matters Lola Jean says comfort from a partner is more important than technique for squirting. > I first squirted with a partner. This was not due to a particular technique my partner used, but because of the comfort they gave me when exploring my body ## Squirting is Not About Men Squirting has become almost entirely about heterosexual men when it has nothing to do with them. > Squirting, an act of those with vaginas, has become almost entirely about heterosexual men, when, in fact, it has absolutely nothing to do with them ## Partner Effort vs. Technique The effort of the would-be squirter matters much more than their partner’s technique. > The effort of the would-be squirter is going to matter much, much more than that of their partner ## Squirting Requires Individual Effort Squirting requires individual anatomy and physiology, not partner techniques to achieve. > Different bodies do different things ## Partner Role in Squirting If your partner wants to squirt, you can only support their efforts, not force the outcome. > If you are looking to make someone squirt as a trophy for your ego, you are setting yourself up for disappointment ## Squirting is Personal Squirting is an individual experience that varies by anatomy and physiology. > Different bodies do different things ## Partner Comfort is Key Comfort from a partner is more important than specific techniques for squirting. > I first squirted with a partner. This was not due to a particular technique my partner used, but because of the comfort they gave me when exploring my body ## Squirting is Not a Performance Squirting has become a performance for people with vaginas, not a natural outcome. > Squirting, an act of those with vaginas, has become almost entirely about heterosexual men, when, in fact, it has absolutely nothing to do with them ## Partner Effort is Primary The effort of the would-be squirter matters more than their partner’s technique. > The effort of the would-be squirter is going to matter much, much more than that of their partner ## Squirting Requires Individual Effort Squirting requires individual anatomy and physiology, not partner techniques to achieve. > Different bodies do different things ## Partner Role in Squirting If your partner wants to squirt, you can only support their efforts, not force the outcome. > If you are looking to make someone squirt as a trophy for your ego, you are setting yourself up for disappointment ## Squirting is Personal Squirting is an individual experience that varies by anatomy and physiology. > Different bodies do different things ## Key takeaway Squirting requires individual anatomy and partner comfort, not specific techniques, to achieve.