# Unfaithful Husband Invites Woman to Move In

> Husband invites cheating partner to move in after 20-year affair.
- Title: Unfaithful Husband Invites Woman to Move In | Shortify
- Summary: Husband invites cheating partner to move in after 20-year affair. Wife seeks legal advice after husband brings cheating partner to live with her.
- Keywords: husband, cheating, move in, dear abby, abigail van buren, losing my mind in texas, divorce, credit card, 510, 5000, teeth, professional help
- Source: Chicago Sun-Times — https://chicago.suntimes.com/dear-abby/2026/09/23/dearabby-today-dear-abby-unfaithful-husband-invites-other-woman-to-move-in
- Published: 2026-09-23T11:00:00+00:00
- Read time: 1 min
- Topics: husband, cheating, move in, dear abby, abigail van buren, losing my mind in texas, divorce, credit card, 510, 5000, teeth, professional help
## Husband's past affair
Husband cheated on wife more than 20 years ago and kept in touch with the woman since then.

> My husband, "Dirk," cheated on me more than 20 years ago. He has kept in touch with the woman since then.
## Recent invitation to move in
Sixteen months ago, the woman told him she was "in a bad place" and he offered to let her move in with them.

> Sixteen months ago, she told him she was "in a bad place." He offered to let this (married) woman move in with us
## Household issues
Her room is filthy, she broke several things without paying, and the wife paid for her teeth.

> Her room is filthy, and she has broken several things in my house without paying for anything. Before she moved here, Dirk wanted to get her teeth fixed. I ended up paying for it with my credit card.
## Debt and payment
She promised to pay $5,000 but has only given $510 so far.

> She promised she was going to pay me back, but she has given me exactly $510 of the $5,000 that she owes me.
## Wife's concerns
Wife is worried about the woman's appearance and behavior but feels she should take more action.

> I’m not worried about Dirk cheating with her again, as she has not maintained her looks or figure over the years. Still, how much more of this should I take?
## Husband's response
Husband says he enjoys her company and refuses marriage counseling.

> When I ask him why he keeps her around, he tells me he enjoys her company. He will not go to marriage counseling as he doesn’t think we need it.
## Legal advice
Dear Abby recommends contacting a lawyer immediately but not moving out until approved.

> DEAR LOSING MY MIND: My dear, you should have left long ago. Call a lawyer immediately. However, since this woman is not a physical threat, resist the urge to move out until you have your attorney’s approval.
## Wife's dilemma
Wife asks whether to start divorce proceedings or let this go.

> Do you think I should contact a lawyer and start divorce proceedings or let this go?
## Other reader's story
Another reader shares story about co-worker depression and need for professional help.

> I became close with an attractive, younger co-worker last year. Realizing I was starting to get a crush, I told her I needed to stay away because of my feelings and, being married, couldn’t risk losing my family.
## Professional help advice
Dear Abby advises encouraging professional help for co-worker in depression.

> What you should do is reiterate to her firmly, but as kindly as you can, that she needs to get professional help for her depression.
## Key takeaway

Wife seeks legal advice after husband brings cheating partner to live with her.