# Why Couples Stop Having Sex

> Researchers find couples blame partners for lack of sex, not themselves.
- Title: Why Couples Stop Having Sex · vice | Shortify
- Summary: Researchers find couples blame partners for lack of sex, not themselves. Couples who blame partners for not having sex report lower sexual satisfaction than…
- Keywords: couples, sex, relationships, marriage, research, sexual satisfaction, news, culture, Stop, Having, vice
- Source: vice — https://vice.com/en/article/researchers-asked-couples-why-they-werent-having-sex-heres-what-they-found
- Author: Ashley Fike
- Published: 2026-10-26T13:08:17+00:00
- Read time: 1 min
- Topics: couples, sex, relationships, marriage, research, sexual satisfaction, news, culture
## Why Couples Stop Having Sex
Researchers followed 87 couples for a month to find out why they weren't having sex.
## Most Common Explanations
Men and women equally said it just didn't happen, sometimes due to lack of time.
## Who Blames Whom
Women blamed themselves; men blamed partners or kids for lack of sex.
## Blaming Hurts Relationships
Couples blaming partners reported lower sexual satisfaction than those sharing responsibility.
## Expert Insight
Therapist Michele Weiner-Davis says rejection feels personal for those wanting touch.

> For the one yearning for touch and physical contact, it really is about feeling wanted and feeling loved
## Key takeaway

Couples who blame partners for not having sex report lower sexual satisfaction than those who share responsibility.