From vice · Sammi Caramela · · 1m
Rubber Band Theory Explains Distant Boyfriend
Why your boyfriend pulls away and returns, the rubber band theory.
In brief
Why your boyfriend pulls away and returns, the rubber band theory. Men may pull back from partners to maintain independence, not disinterest, according to relationship expert Dr. Sabrina Romanoff. Originally reported by vice.
Rubber Band Theory Origin
The rubber band theory compares men to a rubber band in dating, alternating between closeness and space.
John Gray's 1992 Book
John Gray coined the theory in his 1992 bestselling book Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus.
Dr. Romanoff's Expertise
Dr. Sabrina Romanoff, a Harvard-trained clinical psychologist and relationship expert at Hily Dating App, explains the theory.
Why Men Pull Away
Men may pull back to maintain independence, not disinterest, as closeness can feel threatening.
Emotional Whiplash Risk
This push-and-pull pattern causes emotional whiplash while building a connection.
What Happens Next
Give them time to return, bank the pattern as information, and avoid impulsive reactions.
What it means
Men may pull back from partners to maintain independence, not disinterest, according to relationship expert Dr. Sabrina Romanoff.
