From Psychologies · Louise Leboyer · · 50s
Why Women Who Are Always Nice Stop Knowing What They Want
Psychiatrist Tracey Mark explains why women who prioritize others' needs over their own may lose their sense of self.
In brief
Psychiatrist Tracey Mark explains why women who prioritize others' needs over their own may lose their sense of self. Women who consistently please others may lose their sense of self due to the 'good girl syndrome', which prioritizes others' expectations over personal desires. Originally reported by Psychologies.
Quick answers
- What is the good girl syndrome?
- The good girl syndrome, or good girl complex, is a behavioral pattern developed during childhood in girls.
- Why does this syndrome happen?
- Girls are taught to prioritize others' acceptance over their own needs, leading to internalized gender stereotypes.
- What is the key takeaway from Why Women Who Are Always Nice Stop Knowing What They Want?
- Women who consistently please others may lose their sense of self due to the 'good girl syndrome', which prioritizes others' expectations over personal desires.
What is the good girl syndrome?
The good girl syndrome, or good girl complex, is a behavioral pattern developed during childhood in girls.
“Selon une étude de l'université de Stanford, les traits de caractère souhaitables chez les femmes sont la chaleur, la loyauté et la gaieté”
Why does this syndrome happen?
Girls are taught to prioritize others' acceptance over their own needs, leading to internalized gender stereotypes.
“De nombreux parents nourrissent ces caractéristiques correspondantes chez leurs fils et leurs filles”
Symptoms of the syndrome
Fear of disappointing others, desire for perfection, obedience to rules, and reluctance to express personal needs.
“Les « filles gentilles» qui font passer les souhaits des autres avant les leurs finissent par se sentir frustrées et pleines de ressentiment”
How to overcome it
Express personal desires clearly, define personal values, and learn to set boundaries without sacrificing kindness.
“N'ayez pas peur de dire ce que vous acceptez et ce que vous refusez”
The one thing
Women who consistently please others may lose their sense of self due to the 'good girl syndrome', which prioritizes others' expectations over personal desires.
