From Slate Magazine · Nicole Chung · · 1m 10s
Double Standard in Mom's Treatment of Daughters
Mother calls daughter 'Jackie' by accident due to resemblance to deceased sister.
In brief
Mother calls daughter 'Jackie' by accident due to resemblance to deceased sister. Mother's grief over sister's death causes her to treat daughter Haley differently than older daughter Lindsey. Originally reported by Slate Magazine.
Family Background
Author has two daughters, Lindsey (6) and Haley (4), with mother living nearby.
Sister's Death
Author's sister Jackie died after being hit by a drunk driver while crossing the street.
Physical Resemblance
Haley looks strikingly similar to Jackie and shares physical features and mannerisms.
Mother's Behavior
Mother accidentally calls Haley 'Jackie' and treats her more distantly than Lindsey.
Author's Concern
Author worries mother's behavior will harm Haley's sense of being loved as she grows older.
Suggested Conversation
Author should start conversation with mother about her grief and how she treats daughters.
Mother's Grief
Mother felt pressured to hold things together after youngest sister was in high school.
Possible Solutions
Mother could spend one-on-one time with Haley to strengthen their bond and help her feel loved.
Author's Priority
Author prioritizes Haley's well-being over mother's grief and needs to set boundaries if necessary.
The essence
Mother's grief over sister's death causes her to treat daughter Haley differently than older daughter Lindsey.
