From Slate Magazine · Doree Shafrir · · 1m 20s
Husband's Work Complaints Hurt Marriage
Wife wants husband to stop complaining about work.
In brief
Wife wants husband to stop complaining about work. A wife asks her husband to stop complaining about work after he becomes anxious about responsibilities. Originally reported by Slate Magazine.
Marriage double standard
A wife feels she perpetuates a double standard in her marriage by being hardworking while her husband works sporadically.
Husband's work habits
Her husband is a talented freelancer who works 10-15 hours a week but becomes anxious when asked to meet expectations.
Wife's work complaints
She complains about clients and bosses with phrases like 'Can you believe the audacity?' or 'This is a frustrating situation that has a lot of nuance.'
“Can you believe the audacity??”
Husband's work complaints
He complains about having to go to work, meet deadlines, and follow procedures, causing anxiety and grouchy reactions.
“Ughhhh I can’t believe I have to do this”
Marriage tension
She feels resentful when he has to take on more work, but their marriage works despite the imbalance.
Wife's request
She wants him to stop complaining about work and only contact her for interesting complaints.
Advice from columnist
The columnist suggests talking to the husband about his complaints and possibly using a couples therapist or executive functioning coach.
What happens next
The wife needs to be clear about what she needs from her husband to fix the work complaint issue.
In short
A wife asks her husband to stop complaining about work after he becomes anxious about responsibilities.
