From Slate Magazine · Rich Juzwiak · · 2m
Spouse Becomes Uncomfortably Sensitive After Orgasm
Partner's sudden sensitivity after orgasm causes discomfort during intimacy.
In brief
Partner's sudden sensitivity after orgasm causes discomfort during intimacy. Partner becomes overly sensitive to touch after orgasm, causing discomfort during sexual activity. Originally reported by Slate Magazine.
Spouse's reaction after orgasm
When I orgasm, I become instantly and insanely sensitive anywhere near my penis.
“When I orgasm, I become instantly and insanely sensitive anywhere near my penis”
Partner's behavior during sensitivity
He likes to be up close and prolong ejaculation by continuing to stroke and lick.
“He likes to be up close and prolong ejaculation by continuing to stroke and lick”
Partner's response to discomfort
I experience intense discomfort but he gets aggressive and domineering by continuing to try to be close.
“I experience intense discomfort but he gets aggressive and domineering by continuing to try to be close”
Spouse's reaction to communication
We've talked about it while far removed from the bedroom but I try to convey how much this is turning me off.
“We've talked about it while far removed from the bedroom but I try to convey how much this is turning me off”
Spouse's behavior outside bedroom
He is kind, loving, and generous outside of the bedroom.
“He is kind, loving, and generous outside of the bedroom”
Spouse's control issue
He loses control when I become sensitive after orgasm, continuing despite my discomfort.
“He loses control when I become sensitive after orgasm, continuing despite my discomfort”
Spouse's inability to respect consent
His continuing despite my discomfort shows he cannot respect my consent or revocation of it.
“His continuing despite my discomfort shows he cannot respect my consent or revocation of it”
Spouse's potential need for help
If he cannot stay in control, he needs to do some soul-searching and seek help.
“If he cannot stay in control, he needs to do some soul-searching and seek help”
Spouse's possible PTSD
I wonder if this is related to childhood trauma, as I was often brought to tears by brothers' antics.
“I wonder if this is related to childhood trauma, as I was often brought to tears by brothers' antics”
Spouse's current behavior
This issue has only become a problem in the last few years and I'm far removed from my childhood.
“This issue has only become a problem in the last few years and I'm far removed from my childhood”
Spouse's need for communication
I need him to stop touching my penis after I cum, but he cannot do this.
“I need him to stop touching my penis after I cum, but he cannot do this”
Spouse's possible solution
Consider using a safe word if physically removing his hand feels uncomfortable.
“Consider using a safe word if physically removing his hand feels uncomfortable”
Spouse's responsibility
His continuing despite my discomfort is inexcusable and he needs to respect my consent.
“His continuing despite my discomfort is inexcusable and he needs to respect my consent”
Spouse's potential consequences
Many would leave a partner who proves unable to control himself, especially when it happens repeatedly.
“Many would leave a partner who proves unable to control himself, especially when it happens repeatedly”
The main idea
Partner becomes overly sensitive to touch after orgasm, causing discomfort during sexual activity.
