From Woman's World · Kristina Mastrocola, Jenna Cartusciello · · 1m
7 Ways to Protect Peace During Holiday Family Gatherings
How to handle difficult family members this holiday season without drama.
In brief
How to handle difficult family members this holiday season without drama. Therapists recommend setting boundaries, using 'I' statements, and planning recovery after gatherings to protect mental health during holidays. Originally reported by Woman's World.
Setting boundaries before gatherings
Start with self-compassion to manage family conflicts before holiday events.
Ask two small questions
Use questions like 'What’s the best thing that happened since last we talked?' to open conversations.
“What’s the best thing that happened since last we talked?”
It’s okay to say you’re not ready
Call ahead to say you’re not ready to discuss certain topics without pressure.
Name your boundaries, kindly
Designate safe zones like the kitchen where contentious topics stay off limits.
“I really care about you, but I also care about myself; I need X this holiday.”
Get curious instead of combative
Ask why someone feels a certain way to lower defenses during conversations.
“Can you tell me why you feel that way?”
Use 'I' statements
Speak from your experience with 'I feel' statements to avoid blaming others.
“I feel”
Plan recovery after gatherings
Engage in restorative activities like board games or spa visits after tense events.
“Meeting people where they are, and showing yourself and others grace”
The headline
Therapists recommend setting boundaries, using 'I' statements, and planning recovery after gatherings to protect mental health during holidays.
